In order to talk about wanting, we must first talk about having.
There is nothing wrong with having. Having is fun; we have so much, so let’s enjoy it.
Wanting, however, is a huge problem. As soon as we want, we experience lack. Lack is a hollow feeling, an anxious feeling. Contrary to popular belief, we do not have to want to have. They are in fact opposites.
Over 90% of our suffering is from wanting. Even if I “have” a pain in my back, 90% of that suffering is “wanting” it to end. In the moment itself the pain is not so bad; however, the fear it will never end is what causes the majority of the suffering.
Here’s an example. You are fine, content… then you pick up a magazine and see someone wearing a Cartier with a beautiful man/woman on his/her arm. All of a sudden you have a hollow feeling and some anxiety and now you are wanting, something is wrong, you need to fix it, you need money, how will you get it, no time to relax, get to work… Now, you are stuck with anxiety and a job you don’t love; consequently, you lose your freedom yet are still wanting…
There is nothing wrong with having; it is wanting that is the problem.
What wants are you willing to surrender so that you can have your life?