The Big 5 of a Better Life

Awareness
Is simply noticing things, it is what we choose to bring our attention and
consciousness to. You have the power to choose what you become aware of
and what you give your attention to. This is one of your most powerful allies
in how you experience, evolve and construct your life.

Perspective
The filters through which our consciousness sees the world, how you are
interpreting what you are aware of. Perspective limits and can modify your
awareness. Getting new, more expansive perspectives will powerfully
upgrade what you can do with your awareness and how you are able to
participate in your life.

Consciousness
Is the active part of ourselves, what we are present to, what we call agency;
our power to choose and act in alignment with our most authentic self.
Conscious behavior is in contrast to unconscious behavior. As we grow our
consciousness, conscious behavior takes over more of our lives and
unconscious behaviors are diminished, we feel more empowered and alive.

Feedback
Is information that comes in from the outside as a result of our conscious and
unconscious behaviors. By bringing awareness to the feedback we are
receiving we get a mirror to the impact of our behavior and have the
opportunity to change conscious behavior, grow and change our perspective,
and possibly bring unconscious behavior to light.

Inquiry
Is a tool for working with feedback and exploring our own awareness,
perspective, and consciousness. It is also a way to explore relationships and
interactions with others without interference from our own perspective.
Inquiry can be a method for supporting others to become aware of their own
unconscious behaviors, beliefs, and perspectives. Inquiry brings light into
unexplored places.

Inviting Others to the Mountain Experience

Many of you have been deeply impacted in one way or another by the Mountain Experience. For the majority of you it has been a life-changing event that, as I hear from many of you, you think about every day. Even if you have not attended the mountain experience, I encourage you to learn more about it and share it with your friends. In fact, we as human beings often want to share such a beneficial experience with other people that seem struggling or limited in some way as they could really use the insight that is provided by the Mountain Experience.

Encouraging or inviting someone to come can be a real challenge because we do not always have the tools or the perspective to share the Mountain Experience with another person. The opportunity most often occurs when somebody is suffering or challenged. Our typical habit when somebody else is suffering or challenged is to drop into telling, to advising, to comforting, to all sorts of different modes that do not really offer the support that someone else is needing. The most powerful way to interact with someone is through inquiry because they just want to be understood or heard.

If you find someone that seems to be struggling in some way, then you can apply inquiry with a desire to not fix them but to truly understand what is going on for them. When you do this, you will see them open up; you will see them go deeper into their awareness about what is happening to them. In that openness, if you can simply recognize the shared humanity, the shared underpinnings that we all have, and recognize what they have that you have, you will form a compassionate connection. Once you feel that connection, once you have recognized the shared humanities and struggles around life, then you can say “You know, I have felt that way personally and I still feel that way sometimes, and I did something, the Mountain Experience, that really made a big difference in how I see things and it really made it easier for me.”

Once you have shared that, you can stop, and just see if something lights up in the person with whom you are speaking. And if something does light up in them, they will usually ask you a question like, “Do you think that would help me?” At that point it is really important to only answer the question at the level at which they ask it. So, for example, if someone asks, “Do you think that could help me?”, the very best response is “I don’t know, it helped me, so maybe you should check it out- would you like me to send you a link or have someone call you?” And then it is essentially off your plate, as we here at Inquiry Method will take care of the rest.

The main thing to remember here is you should not try to fix them or say they need the Mountain Experience; it is much better to present it as an opportunity or invitation. You should convey that the mountain experience worked for you when you were dealing with similar issues, and say you hope it will do the same for them. The very best outcome is to get their permission for someone to call them, and then let us know, and we will be happy to follow up and have an initial conversation with them to see if attending the Mountain Experience would be a beneficial endeavor.

A Special Mountain Experience

There is an upcoming Mountain Experience in September, and for all of you that have had an interest in coming to the Mountain Experience, I truly recommend that you try to make it now. It is going to be a really special one, and it very may well be (at least for the time being) the last iteration of the Mountain Experience. Now I am sure that at some point there will be something similar that comes along on some level, but there is going to be a radical shift in Inquiry Method around how we deliver our teachings. And we have got some very exciting things up ahead.

But before that happens, I wanted to personally invite all of you to attend our last Mountain Experience. I hear people all the time that say, “You know, I’ve been thinking about coming to the Mountain Experience for 15 years or so,” or, “I really want this person I know to go the Mountain Experience.” So, if you have any of these feelings or thoughts this would be a great time to act on them, because pretty soon there will be entirely new experiences coming up.

I am very excited about what is on the horizon, and we are all very happy about it and I am sure you will all really enjoy what’s to come. However, there is also a sense of nostalgia and beauty surrounding the Mountain Experience and what has been. This last one is going to be really great, and there is going to be a lot of power and transformation taking place. So, I invite you personally to attend, and I invite you to let those people know who have always wanted to go to the Mountain Experience that the time is now! I hope to see you all there!

More details to come- keep your eye out for blogs and email updates from Inquiry Method!

Fundamentals of Inquiry Method™, and Inquiry Management™

At its root, Inquiry Method™, and Inquiry Management™ by extension, are the capacity to come to any conversation, challenge, or interaction with open curiosity and inquisitiveness rather than with answers, assumptions, and directives. In our culture, we are taught to have all the answers and that our intelligence is based on knowledge. For most of our education, we are given answers and required to memorize and repeat them for tests and exams. Most of us have continued in this pattern in our professional and personal lives. The problem with having the answers is that everyone stops growing and learning.

This is particularly true in relationships both personal and professional. We make assumptions and project ourselves into other people. We judge, gossip, assert, tell, and correct, instead of asking and inquiring. The process of telling others what to do shuts down communication and leads our relationships into stuck and frustrating situations.

If you want to create dynamic, alive, and vital relationships where accountability, productivity, and creativity are authentically embraced, then you have to be wiling to not know, willing to put your ego aside and let curiosity lead the way.

Inquiry Method provides processes, practices and inquiry lenses that break through the obstacles to growth and mastery level living. It provides the bold shift in perspective and the set of tools that are needed to master our own level of participation so that we can become inspirational leaders in every aspect of our lives.

Learn more through our Inquiry Management eCourse by Kyle Mercer from Inquiry Method™.  Kyle Mercer’s interactive eCourse includes video lectures featuring Kyle Mercer, 9 interactive comprehensive units, and an individual, private workbook designed to guide you towards creating an environment of growth and accountability in your organization.

Please click HERE to learn more.

Surrender

What would happen if you were in full approval of this moment?

Take your time to reflect on this Inquiry. What is keeping you from full approval? How would this change your engagement with life? See how opening to the moment impacts how you feel.

Learning to be in full approval of everything, including yourself, is at the core of the Inquiry Method process and curriculum.

Kyle

Come join us at the Mountain Experience in September where we explore what keeps us from full acceptance and guide us towards enjoying the present.

Confidence

There is an idea in our culture that we are supposed to be confident. We have put a high value in knowing, we like the security of knowing. The model for authority is the one who knows. Even in the classroom this is showcased; the child that has the most correct answers gets the most praise.

An inquiry approach to life is the exact opposite; it is the willingness to not know. When I step into a situation of not knowing, I engage like a scientist and an artist. I collect all the data and information which makes me confident and engage with truth, “what is”. Because I’m interested, I’m engaged.

Once I’ve collected all the data, and once we can agree on the data it’s typically quite easy to move forward and agree. You will find that true confidence comes from using inquiry and experiencing life directly and responding to what is true with truth. The first step to confidence is knowing myself, knowing myself is not fixed, it is of the now, we must be willing to inquire into truth and into myself right now and begin there.

Thanks to Kelly Keppler for suggesting this topic.

Unasked Questions

Truth and knowledge are very powerful and can be a grounding force in your life, if you can find the courage to deploy them effectively. So often when I am coaching, we discover the biggest challenges can be better understood and resolved through obvious, unasked questions. The courage to ask those unasked questions is the power of Inquiry Method™.

See if you can find the unasked questions in your life, in your work environment and personal relationships. Find the courage to ask them and watch the transformation unfold.

Love,

Kyle

What do you want for Christmas?

What do you want for Christmas?

 

What do you really want?

 

No, what do you really want?

 

Focus on making that part of your holiday season.

Happy Holidays make it a good one.

 

With love,

Kyle

Inquiry Experience Weekend in Raleigh, NC: Inspiring Life at Altitude

For many years, people have asked me for an entry point into our work that is lighter and more accessible than the Mountain Experience. With the Inquiry Experience Weekend: Inspiring Life at Altitude, we have created just that.

In the Mountain Experience, we do deep work which may appear intimidating to some. The Inquiry Experience Weekend in Raleigh, NC, is designed to be light, fun, and safe, yet experiential, powerful, and moving. It is not intended to push into the deeper areas, but instead to learn and explore Inquiry Method™, to create a beautiful sanctuary, understanding, and connection over this two-day process.

Day One of the “Inspiring Life at Altitude Experience” will be about learning and concepts, Day Two will be applying the Inquiry Method™ work within both small and large group settings.

People are welcome to come and sign up for just Day One, and those who want to continue to develop the practical skills can join us for Day Two seminar as well.

For new people the Inquiry Experience Weekend will be a great entry point; for those who have participated in Inquiry Method™ before, it will be extremely enjoyable and useful. It will be a fresh, new, wonderful way to renew and recharge your Mountain Experience. We would love for you to come and bring a friend!

Tuition is $175 for Day One and $250 for both Day One and Two.
8:30 am Daily Arrival. Event: 9:00 am to 4:30 pm.
Mountain Experience graduates who bring a friend will receive half-price tuition.

 

Confident In Your Ignorance

We are a culture that values and defines ourselves by what we know. Knowing is so important, and yet we know so little. Our ignorance is almost complete. We do not know how gravity works. We do not know what light is. We do not know the best diet to keep the human healthy. We do not know why we are here. We do not know what we are doing, we do not know what happens after we die. We know virtually nothing and pretend to know everything. It is a great illusion. It happens on a grand scale, in science and medicine. And it happens on a micro scale on a day to day basis. It is one of the great obstacles to intimacy and connection. We so often think we know what is happening in another person, and most of the time we have no clue. This is why Inquiry is so powerful, because it is the process for understanding and knowing another person.

This awareness came to me so strongly while in a café, I was listening to a mother interact with her child. The child was asking questions and the mother was trying to know. Trying to give the answer. And in fact, she was inaccurate in her answers, and felt she needed to try to hold the higher ground of her authority and knowledge over her child rather than having the willingness not to know.

The willingness not to know created science. The willingness not to know created discovery and invention. The willingness not to know is the forefront of genius. Knowledge is not genius, genius is the willingness not to know.

That is why I teach Inquiry and that is why I see Inquiry as the basis of relationship, and our engagement with life is this willingness to go forward into the world without knowing with the openness and curiosity to discover.

This interest in discovery and self-discovery is the basis of the spirituality behind Inquiry Method™. It is the basis of what we teach and what I want to convey to people when they participate in the processes and the coaching that I offer.

Love,

Kyle