Inquiry Method Training

Hi! This is Olivia and I just recently joined the Inquiry Method team. This week’s blog is my reflection on the amazing Inquiry Method Training that I participated in this past weekend.

The Inquiry Method Training is a four-month course that kicked off with an in-person retreat in Venice Beach, California. Twelve students have committed to diving deeply into Kyle Mercer’s philosophy. I’m new to these teachings, but not to personal development and because of my experience I can recognize Truth. Truth, with a capital T, is what I call the path to being in alignment with Source. As Kyle says, you can feel it when you read a book, listen to a teaching, or watch a video and you can feel there is Truth in it. This weekend was packed full of Truth.

In other programs that I’ve done and other experiences that I’ve had the instructor always spoke of a life of wonderful possibilities but didn’t create a map to the end result. These other teachers spoke of releasing pain in order the create the life you long for but never showed you how. Kyle filled in that gap in knowledge for me beautifully. What’s more, his process is simple, reproducible and has a deep sense of safety built into it.

Kyle starts each event talking about Sanctuary, a promise we make to each other to hold safety as our top priority. While I sometimes like being pushed by teachers or coaches I can’t describe the feeling that washed over me the first night. Kyle started by looking at each one of us in the eye and telling us that he was safe for us. The container that he held wrapped me up, holding me in tender loving care until the last moment of the retreat. I was able to relax in a way that I’m not sure I’ve ever experienced before. Kyle not only held that space for us but taught us how to bring this model of non-judgment, curiosity, and care back to our communities and lives.

This retreat represents a new phase of growth for the company, a movement forward into creating a Life at Altitude, a realization of one’s deepest desires. Although there was releasing of pain that happened during the course of the weekend that wasn’t the main focus. The real motivation for the retreat was the dissemination of the Inquiry Method to those who would make the greatest impact.

The training was mainly comprised of coaches or aspiring coaches who came to learn inquiry tools to take back to their clients. I am a doula or birth coach and although I will use it in my practice I’m even more excited to see how it impacts the relationships in every facet of my life.

This training helped me to be more selfless than ever before. Tony Robbins says that suffering only occurs when a person is focused on themselves. Turning my attention outward allowed me to get out of my own head and hold space for another’s healing. It was a win-win.

Kyle helped instill in me a level of curiosity and openness that I didn’t know was possible. His method helped me get out of the trap of teaching and advocating and back into a childlike sense of wonder. I cannot wait to see how the process of Inquiry Method shifts my relationships and enhances my life. This is only the third day after the training and I already feel like I’m experiencing more flow than ever before. I’ve had the pleasure of allowing the river of life to have its way with me. I’ve stopped resisting the current, started to open, and I can’t wait to see what is waiting around the bend.

Inviting Others to the Mountain Experience

Many of you have been deeply impacted in one way or another by the Mountain Experience. For the majority of you it has been a life-changing event that, as I hear from many of you, you think about every day. Even if you have not attended the mountain experience, I encourage you to learn more about it and share it with your friends. In fact, we as human beings often want to share such a beneficial experience with other people that seem struggling or limited in some way as they could really use the insight that is provided by the Mountain Experience.

Encouraging or inviting someone to come can be a real challenge because we do not always have the tools or the perspective to share the Mountain Experience with another person. The opportunity most often occurs when somebody is suffering or challenged. Our typical habit when somebody else is suffering or challenged is to drop into telling, to advising, to comforting, to all sorts of different modes that do not really offer the support that someone else is needing. The most powerful way to interact with someone is through inquiry because they just want to be understood or heard.

If you find someone that seems to be struggling in some way, then you can apply inquiry with a desire to not fix them but to truly understand what is going on for them. When you do this, you will see them open up; you will see them go deeper into their awareness about what is happening to them. In that openness, if you can simply recognize the shared humanity, the shared underpinnings that we all have, and recognize what they have that you have, you will form a compassionate connection. Once you feel that connection, once you have recognized the shared humanities and struggles around life, then you can say “You know, I have felt that way personally and I still feel that way sometimes, and I did something, the Mountain Experience, that really made a big difference in how I see things and it really made it easier for me.”

Once you have shared that, you can stop, and just see if something lights up in the person with whom you are speaking. And if something does light up in them, they will usually ask you a question like, “Do you think that would help me?” At that point it is really important to only answer the question at the level at which they ask it. So, for example, if someone asks, “Do you think that could help me?”, the very best response is “I don’t know, it helped me, so maybe you should check it out- would you like me to send you a link or have someone call you?” And then it is essentially off your plate, as we here at Inquiry Method will take care of the rest.

The main thing to remember here is you should not try to fix them or say they need the Mountain Experience; it is much better to present it as an opportunity or invitation. You should convey that the mountain experience worked for you when you were dealing with similar issues, and say you hope it will do the same for them. The very best outcome is to get their permission for someone to call them, and then let us know, and we will be happy to follow up and have an initial conversation with them to see if attending the Mountain Experience would be a beneficial endeavor.

A Special Mountain Experience

There is an upcoming Mountain Experience in September, and for all of you that have had an interest in coming to the Mountain Experience, I truly recommend that you try to make it now. It is going to be a really special one, and it very may well be (at least for the time being) the last iteration of the Mountain Experience. Now I am sure that at some point there will be something similar that comes along on some level, but there is going to be a radical shift in Inquiry Method around how we deliver our teachings. And we have got some very exciting things up ahead.

But before that happens, I wanted to personally invite all of you to attend our last Mountain Experience. I hear people all the time that say, “You know, I’ve been thinking about coming to the Mountain Experience for 15 years or so,” or, “I really want this person I know to go the Mountain Experience.” So, if you have any of these feelings or thoughts this would be a great time to act on them, because pretty soon there will be entirely new experiences coming up.

I am very excited about what is on the horizon, and we are all very happy about it and I am sure you will all really enjoy what’s to come. However, there is also a sense of nostalgia and beauty surrounding the Mountain Experience and what has been. This last one is going to be really great, and there is going to be a lot of power and transformation taking place. So, I invite you personally to attend, and I invite you to let those people know who have always wanted to go to the Mountain Experience that the time is now! I hope to see you all there!

More details to come- keep your eye out for blogs and email updates from Inquiry Method!

Stagnant Energy, Case Study

Last week I introduced the concept of stagnant energy and how Inquiry Method can identify and release these blockages and get the energy moving again.  

The same is true not only for individuals, but also when I work with a business.  When we recognize that there is a blockage based on the markers (stress, worry, frustration, etc.), we can work to remove the obstacle. 

Recently, Jim, CEO of a manufacturing firm, wanted to understand why projects were getting delayed. No one on his management team was able to pinpoint the exact reason why.  

Through Inquiry Method, Jim realized that he had an accountability problem, and we thus scheduled a two-day renewal to work with his leadership team. By applying Inquiry Method Management tools and processeswe discovered that no one on the team viewed accountability in a healthy light. We set about redefining the term so that everyone could be aligned in a new view that was free from past associations with blame. This new view of “accountability” involved ownership (noticing things that are and are not working), creativity (applying expertise to find solutions to problems), and transparency (creating bonds of trust). 

In just this small step at the beginning of our session,there was already a noticeable surge of productivity, energy, and engagement from the team. As Inquiry Management tools and processes become familiar and utilized in the DNA of your company, you will notice the upsurge of energy and productivity followed by a smooth, efficient, and new impassioned synergy within your teams.

As a leader or manager using Inquiry Management and Inquiry Leadership, your primary job is to identify the stagnant energy in your organization and through inquiry and mentorship help to get the energy moving again.  Once mastered, this skill will prove extremely powerful to your company.

When you recognize the markers in yourself (stress, anxiety, frustration, etc.), it is a clear signal that you have some work to do. The stagnant energy will inevitably take its toll on you… both on your physical and mental health. In your company, stagnant energy will negatively effect profitability, morale, employee retention, customer satisfaction, and your ability to thrive.  The longer stagnant energy stays in your system or your company, the more damage it does.  Don’t run away from the pain; face it. Do your work, get some help, use Inquiry Method, and get the energy moving again. The breakthrough is exciting and liberating.  Being in balance and flow is joyful and nurturing.

Peace, love, and kindness,

Kyle

Confidence

There is an idea in our culture that we are supposed to be confident. We have put a high value in knowing, we like the security of knowing. The model for authority is the one who knows. Even in the classroom this is showcased; the child that has the most correct answers gets the most praise.

An inquiry approach to life is the exact opposite; it is the willingness to not know. When I step into a situation of not knowing, I engage like a scientist and an artist. I collect all the data and information which makes me confident and engage with truth, “what is”. Because I’m interested, I’m engaged.

Once I’ve collected all the data, and once we can agree on the data it’s typically quite easy to move forward and agree. You will find that true confidence comes from using inquiry and experiencing life directly and responding to what is true with truth. The first step to confidence is knowing myself, knowing myself is not fixed, it is of the now, we must be willing to inquire into truth and into myself right now and begin there.

Thanks to Kelly Keppler for suggesting this topic.

Unasked Questions

Truth and knowledge are very powerful and can be a grounding force in your life, if you can find the courage to deploy them effectively. So often when I am coaching, we discover the biggest challenges can be better understood and resolved through obvious, unasked questions. The courage to ask those unasked questions is the power of Inquiry Method™.

See if you can find the unasked questions in your life, in your work environment and personal relationships. Find the courage to ask them and watch the transformation unfold.

Love,

Kyle

Inquiry Experience Weekend in Raleigh, NC: Inspiring Life at Altitude

For many years, people have asked me for an entry point into our work that is lighter and more accessible than the Mountain Experience. With the Inquiry Experience Weekend: Inspiring Life at Altitude, we have created just that.

In the Mountain Experience, we do deep work which may appear intimidating to some. The Inquiry Experience Weekend in Raleigh, NC, is designed to be light, fun, and safe, yet experiential, powerful, and moving. It is not intended to push into the deeper areas, but instead to learn and explore Inquiry Method™, to create a beautiful sanctuary, understanding, and connection over this two-day process.

Day One of the “Inspiring Life at Altitude Experience” will be about learning and concepts, Day Two will be applying the Inquiry Method™ work within both small and large group settings.

People are welcome to come and sign up for just Day One, and those who want to continue to develop the practical skills can join us for Day Two seminar as well.

For new people the Inquiry Experience Weekend will be a great entry point; for those who have participated in Inquiry Method™ before, it will be extremely enjoyable and useful. It will be a fresh, new, wonderful way to renew and recharge your Mountain Experience. We would love for you to come and bring a friend!

Tuition is $175 for Day One and $250 for both Day One and Two.
8:30 am Daily Arrival. Event: 9:00 am to 4:30 pm.
Mountain Experience graduates who bring a friend will receive half-price tuition.